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The 3 “Ms” of Money Mastery – Mindset, Mechanics, and Manifestation

In a recent conversation with a client as we were wrapping up her coaching program, we both realized the breadth and the depth of the work that we had completed in just 9 months. It was an emotional moment, and we were both grateful at the shift we had been able to create for her to have a much more positive and powerful relationship with money.

As we reflected on the 9 months that we’d spent together, we truly realized how much we had been able to accomplish. As a business owner, she had started her program wanting to understand how her beliefs about money were holding her back; how to set up a savings and spending plan that she could actually stick with; how her personal financial situation impacted her business; and how to set financial goals in her business while tracking and understanding her business’ performance.

On our journey together, we started by understanding her money mindset. Money mindset is a set of conscious or unconscious beliefs about money that are typically learned either from immediate family or society at large while growing up. Some examples include: “I’m not good at math or money”; “I’m not smart enough to get rich”; “I have some resentment toward wealthy people”; and “Financial security comes from a good job and a steady paycheck.” And in truly understanding your money mindset, it’s also important to review and revisit how you grew up around money as there are often consistent themes of what you were taught to believe. Once you have an awareness and understanding of your current money beliefs and mindset, the final step is to decide whether those beliefs serve you (i.e. they support you and you’d like to keep those beliefs) or whether you’d like to recondition and shift those beliefs to something new and more supportive.

Once we understood the money beliefs that were standing in her way and how she wanted to recondition those beliefs, it was time to look at how she was using her money and also to set up some money mechanics. Money mechanics are, in a nutshell, the systems and processes in your daily life that support you in keeping your money flowing authentically, proactively, and intentionally. Mechanics include (but aren’t limited to): having a savings and spending plan (or financial plan) that is based on your goals; regularly reviewing how you’re actually using your money in comparison to how you’ve planned to; and having a system in place to reduce debt and also to increase savings.

Finally, after stabilizing and centering this client with a new and improved money mindset and stronger mechanics, she and I focused on the importance of intention with respect to money manifestation. If manifestation is a new word for you, essentially it represents the ability to create something (i.e. to manifest it). In my experience, both with myself, and with clients, manifestation is a process that requires clarity in what is being requested (i.e. specifics like amount, timing of amount, etc.), a strong financial foundation, and a very strong intention and energy behind receiving what it is that you’re requesting. As one mentor once told me, Attention + Intention = Results, and I feel this is highly applicable when it comes to manifestation. What you focus on expands and is attracted into your life, so clarity of intention and desires is critical to ensure you’re attracting what you actually want!

Developing a new relationship with money takes time, and yet at the same time some pretty powerful and profound changes can take place relatively quickly when one dedicates time and attention on their money mindset, mechanics, and manifestation. What next step will you take today to develop your own money mastery?

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Excerpt from “A New Relationship With Money” (by Kerry Cudmore)

About the Author: Kerry Cudmore is a professional certified life and business coach, empowerment trainer, firewalking instructor, and author who has made a lifetime study of human expression. She creates and teaches methods that make complex concepts easy to understand and master so that clients and class participants can create joyful, prosperous, and fulfilling lives and businesses. She is founder of the Spiritual Finance Initiative, which is devoted to changing our individual and collective relationships with money.

Kerry used to have a terrible relationship with money. A disorganized wallet, piles of unopened bills, and daily calls from angry creditors were indications of just how bad it was. She decided to change things once and for all, redefining her relationship with money, and now helping others do the same in her Spiritual Finance class series. She has taught the class to hundreds of people since 2008, and now presents the basic Spiritual Finance philosophies in her new easy-to-digest bite of a book, “A New Relationship with Money”.

Click here to learn more about Kerry Cudmore and her work visit her website.

Click here to purchase “A New Relationship With Money” in hardcover or on Kindle.

When I teach people about changing their relationship with money, I always begin the same way: I ask them to describe money. In simple terms, and using whatever words and phrases come to mind immediately, I ask them to describe money and how they feel about it. They share things like, “It doesn’t grow on trees,” “I don’t like it,” “Here one day, gone the next,” or even “I hate money.” They add descriptors such as stress, worry, fear, not enough, anxiety, conflict, dirty, unattainable, unpredictable, untrustworthy, and mysterious. There is also a smattering of responses like, “It’s a resource” and “It helps me do what I need to do,” and words like necessity, fun (when you have it), and power. Many relate the belief that money is the root of all evil.

At this point I typically notice that the atmosphere in the room feels charged and nervous. The descriptions require effort and some degree of struggle and discomfort. I observe that my own breathing is shallow and that my palms have gotten sweaty. I ask people to notice the feeling in the room; generally, we can agree that it feels somewhat disturbed. People look uncomfortable in their seats and seem hyper-vigilant.

Next, I ask them to put the idea of money aside completely and describe the word “spiritual.” I explain that this word, to me — and in the context that we’ll use it – simply implies living according to your values, whatever those values may be. If your values are informed by a specific religious belief system, fine; if not, fine. It means living your life according to your values, however you define them. When people describe the word “spiritual,” they use words such as peace, love, calm, joy, happiness, growth, connection, faith, comfort, reassurance, trust, and serenity. As people describe living life in harmony with their values, I notice that the energy in the room quickly shifts.

Everyone breathes a deep sigh of relief, and people smile, calm down, and relax in their seats as the descriptions flow more easily. There’s less jaggedness and more connection.

We look at the difference between these two sets of descriptions — how dissimilar they are, and how different they feel to explore. I point out that it’s not just interesting what descriptions are on the lists, but what’s missing as well: Anxiety and fear never show up on the spiritual list, and peace and love aren’t used to describe money. This is revealing to me; it seems interesting to others as well.

I share my theory about money:

If you endeavor to live your life according to your values, and you are unable to describe money in the same way you’d describe your values, you can never have a healthy relationship with money. It cannot and will not fit with who you are as a person. Consciously or unconsciously, you’ll have to keep it at a distance – or you’ll be in conflict with your core beliefs. You’ll be out of alignment with your values.

At this point, I notice a pause in the room; it’s as if something has clicked into place and makes sense. If I could give it a voice, the pause would be saying Hmmmm. This is a different way to think about money, and it takes time to absorb the implications.

In the pause, I notice that people are considering this new perspective.

Why is it like this? How did it get this way? Why is there so much disparity between how money could serve us (as a resource in alignment with our values) and where many of us have ended up (in a place of fear, stress, and unease)? It’s all related to how we learned about it.

Most of us were taught about money indirectly, as if by osmosis. From a very young age we begin to pick up on subtle and not-so-subtle messages — messages that were rarely intended to inform us about money, but nonetheless did so in powerful ways; we acquire what surrounds us, regardless of whether that reflects our values. We absorb these messages randomly, yet they become our belief system about money, without our realizing that we even have a belief system.

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