Moving through Levels of Financial Consciousness

As December rolled around and I sat back to think about the year behind me, I also reflected on the fact that I’d owned Financially Authentic for almost 3 years. 3 YEARS! Wow – where had the time gone?

On one hand, I acknowledged myself for the amazing things that I had accomplished and on the other hand there was this sense that I hadn’t accomplished everything that I’d wanted to. At least yet.

And yet at the end of 3 years my mission was so clear. I’d started my business with the simple goal to support others to learn the mechanics and systems of how to manage money effectively, essentially paying forward what my parents had taught me. And eventually that grew into also working with clients on their money mindset as well. And then I shifted from working only with salaried/employed professionals to also working with fellow entrepreneurs as well. And the shifts and growth continued at rapid pace from that point forward.

I truly began to understand what was meant when someone said “Your self-worth does not equal your net worth.” I’d heard it for years, shared that golden nugget of an idea with many clients, and yet in fall 2014 I truly got it in my bones. 3 years into my business I had invested a significant amount of money to grow myself and to grow my business, and I was realizing just how much shifting of my own financial mindset had taken place.

When I first began my business, I first and foremost taught about the importance of the ability to stabilize your financial life. So much of the financial stress and chaos I experience with clients and others that I speak with comes from not having any awareness of where they are financially speaking, which then gets in the way of them establishing powerful future goals.

So, as I see it, the first level of financial consciousness is STABILIZE. What does this look like? It looks like what many of my new clients are experiencing – financial stress, chaos, fear, and sometimes even some volatility as well. This phase begins with a lack of skills and knowledge to begin to build the financial foundation under oneself for the next phase. There is limited knowledge as to how money is being spent, there is often a healthy dose of consumer debt to be paid down (i.e. credit card debt, student loans, etc.), and there is also a limited amount of savings available to absorb any unexpected surprises in life that generate a new expense. In this phase, it’s important to gather information so that you can understand where you are right now and stabilize the situation.

After the STABILIZE phase, the next phase is CENTER. This is where you’re clear about your financial opportunities and challenges, and you’re looking to strengthen your financial foundation typically by decreasing debt or increasing savings. You may also be in the process of addressing other risks that are present to your financial health – such as applying for and getting certain types of insurance (i.e. life, health, disability, etc.), working with an accountant to get some support with taxes, or documenting personal wishes by preparing legal documents (i.e. will, trust, etc.). Also, unrelated to finances this phase also typically includes beginning to gain clarity on your purpose and vision (through work, volunteering, or starting your own business) which leads to the drive to create something bigger. This phase may also result in less of an interest in purchasing material things – there simply isn’t the same level of pleasure to have things vs. having amazing experiences instead.

Finally, the third phase is EXPAND. And this is the phase I’m in now where I’m clear how my money is moving in my daily life, who is on my financial team, and the fact that my bigger purpose is to fundamentally support a shift in our global mindset from scarcity toward abundance. This phase often results in what I like to refer to as financial confidence which I think of as the ability to confidently and gracefully stand in your power with solid financial systems and strategies in place to support using money as a tool to support your vision. This phase typically includes a lot of growth, personally and professionally, and you’re challenging the status quo and perhaps even creating a new experience for yourself and others. In this phase, there may be wealth already built in the traditional sense (i.e. savings accounts, investments, etc.), and it may also be the case that wealth is being invested and released in order to prepare for the next level. Also, there is a general sense that no matter what the financial results are in your life that you have the skills and knowledge to handle your money and financial situation and that you’re on the right path forward. You’re clear of your power to create and manifest things and can see the abundance in your life on a regular basis.

In the end, the evolution of our consciousness is a journey and not a destination. And of course, this is true for financial consciousness as well. I’m sure there are even more phases ahead for me and others on our financial journey, and each will be just as valuable as the phases behind us.

The journey is full of ups and downs and fears and concerns, and while perhaps painful at times the ultimate growth we experience along the way is always worth it in the end, isn’t it?

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When Emotions and Money Collide

About 20 minutes into my new workshop the other night, I felt the energy shift in the room.
The people attending were taking a few minutes to think about what their energy was when it came to money – was it full of resentment, anger, and upset? Or was it full of gratitude, abundance, and positivity?

Once everyone was done writing down their thoughts, I encouraged everyone to share what had come up for them with the class and that’s when the magic started to happen. As everyone shared openly and honestly about their emotions when it came to money, I could feel the sense of relief from everyone that they were not alone.

If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you’ve heard me quote the statistics time and time again – 70% of people live paycheck to paycheck and 76% of people feel out of control when it comes to their money. In my experience, these statistics are primarily the result of people living in fear of taking financial action due to their feelings and emotions around money.

Guilty, scarce, shameful, anxious, alone, afraid/scared, angry, embarrassed. These were just a few of the words that described how people felt when it came to their money.

As much as I truly believe that money management is, indeed, a teachable and learnable skill, unfortunately very often emotions prevent people from seeking support to learn the skills that they’ve never been taught. They stay stuck in the fear and never allow themselves to surrender to the possibility that it’s a significant area of their life with which they can ask for support.

When emotions surface around money, I recommend the following steps to begin to move through those emotions so that you can take action to learn the money management skills that you were never taught and to, once and for all, empower yourself with skills and strategies to pave your path to financial freedom:

  1. Experience your experience – What I mean by this is the following – don’t try to avoid what you’re feeling, because when you do it’s like sitting on a beach ball under water. While you may be able to keep your feelings “under the surface” for a certain period of time, inevitably the feelings will surface and they may pop up loudly from the pressure. (Picture the beach ball just popping up from the water underneath you!). If you’re feeling angry, then feel anger. If you’re feeling sadness, then feel sad. If you’re feeling guilty, then feel guilty. Don’t avoid it, acknowledge the elephant in the room.
  2. Tell someone else – Usually when I say this, people let out an audible groan – “UGH.” Yes, telling someone what you’re feeling allows you to have someone bear witness to what you’re going through. I’m not suggesting you pick some random person on the street who may look at you and judge you (because that’s a real fear, right – that someone will judge you?), I’m talking about a best friend, a loved one, a confidante. Someone who is on your team and will listen and be the space for you to share openly and honestly what’s going on for you. I’ve found that this step is critical, as shame, guilt, embarrassment and fear can’t stand to be spoken in the light of day – once the feelings are spoken, the emotional energy within you can be shifted.
  3. Make a new choice – You’ve acknowledged the elephant in the room by experiencing your experience and you’ve told someone, so now what? It’s time to make a powerful choice. Who do you want to be with your money? What are your goals? What type of support do you need skill-wise or emotionally to create what you want in your life? Be real about the fact that you’re surrendering to your commitment to become financially empowered and skilled in the area of money management, and that you’re open to getting the support that you need to do that.

Emotions and feelings can be a significant barrier to being powerful with your money, which means that the power of money as a tool to support your life is diminished. Allow yourself to move through your emotions and shift to the other side where strategies and skills are waiting to support you on your journey to financial freedom!

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Playing Financial Quarterback in Your Own Life

As I watched the later moments of the Superbowl earlier this week, I was reminded of the beauty of the flow when a team comes together to create amazing results.

And while a football team and a football game are certainly different than your financial life, I was still reminded of the importance of being the financial “quarterback” in your own life. The quarterback is responsible for understanding who is on the field, providing instructions to each player for what to do next, and also soliciting input for strategy from others (amongst many other things).

So if we consider what it takes to be an effective financial quarterback who is actively taking a role in your financial freedom, some important questions come to mind to when considering how to effectively put together a financial plan to support your goals and your life.

  1. Do you have all of the positions filled on your financial roster?

    Often times, I find that many people don’t fully understand who is available to support them and even if they are aware, sometimes they’re afraid to reach out to ask for support. The key players on a financial team tend to include (and can also include more technically specific individuals as well): a CPA, a financial advisor, an insurance professional, an estate planning attorney, and a financial coach. Depending on your needs, you may need all of these professionals or perhaps you only need a few of them. My invitation is to take the time to meet with each of these professionals to allow them to support you in identifying the possible risks that are present to your financial future, and if it makes sense to partner with them to mitigate the risks present to your financial plan then by all means do so. At the very least, don’t leave a hole in your financial roster simply because you haven’t yet taken the time to educate yourself about what, if any, support you could receive!!

  2. Are you confident in all of your financial team members?

    To the extent that you already have financial professionals that work with you, are you satisfied with how they’re serving you? If I had a penny for every person who told me they weren’t satisfied with someone that they’ve hired, I would definitely be extremely wealthy.

    If you’re happy with the service of your team, great! And if you’re not happy, then I would recommend taking 1 of 2 steps – either sit down with them to offer them feedback in terms of how they can serve you better, or consider interviewing another professional to get a second opinion and perspective on how they could serve you to strengthen your financial foundation. It never hurts to get a second opinion, and you may decide that it’s time for a change if your current team member isn’t serving you in the way that you would like to be served.

  3. Are you engaged in the “game” of being financially conscious and/or how would you rate your performance as the quarterback?

    This is the more challenging part of the process to evaluate your team’s performance – completing a self-assessment. Are you communicating and interacting proactively with your team members, and using them to their fullest potential to serve you? Are you actively engaged in asking questions and allowing your team members to teach you so that you can powerfully oversee your financial future? If the answer is yes, then keep up the good work! Unfortunately, many times I hear people say “oh, I don’t talk to my CPA/financial advisor/attorney all that often, I just let them do their thing.”

    If a quarterback on a football team just let the other players “do their thing,” how do you think that would turn out for the team? I’m going to guess it would be a disaster!

Take a moment today to step back and evaluate how your financial team is shaping up, and how your team is performing with respect to the goals that you’ve set for your finances and your life. And while you may identify gaps in your team while evaluating, this isn’t an exercise to feel badly about what isn’t happening, it’s simply an exercise about what’s missing and what your next step is to take ownership of your financial future.

So what’s the next step for you to build your financial team? A CPA? A financial advisor? An estate planning attorney? Ask a friend or loved one for a trusted recommendation and get the support you need to establish the next pillar in your financial foundation and strengthen your financial plan!

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Can You See the Abundance in Your Life?

Death has a way of having you get clear on just how grateful you are for the amazing things in your life.

With the sad, yet expected, death of 2 grandparents last week (they had been ill in nursing homes for many years), it was a vivid reminder to value every minute you have because you never know when your time will be up.

And when our time is up, will we have genuinely appreciated all of the abundance present in our lives? My experience is that very often we’re moving too quickly to “smell the roses,” as the old saying goes. And sometimes it can be as simple as sitting down to look at the everyday occurrences that give us joy or make us smile.

For me, abundance lies in some of the amazing simplicities of life. I love the peace that I feel in the very early hours of the morning, and how I am blessed to work from my home office and have a short commute up my stairs to start my work day. I enjoy learning new things about my friends and family and what excites them or what they’re up to. I feel safe in the cozy, comfortable home that I’ve owned for 10 years and I enjoy the calmness of the space that I’ve created. The fact that my “work” doesn’t feel like work at all is one of the greatest blessings of my life – I get to support people in forever changing their lives forever by recreating their relationship with money. I get excited by reading a good book and learning something new. I love receiving clear signs that I’m on the right track with what I’m up to. I happily grocery shop each week for healthy food and have a reliable car to keep me on the move. I’m committed to continuing to grow and take myself to the next level.

For my clients, abundance often is experienced in the small things at first after many years of running around in a tornado of financial stress. One client recently told me that she was thrilled this past Christmas when she and her husband set a limit on the people they were buying gifts for and also a spending limit of $50. She said she was more mindful of buying a meaningful gift with the $50 per person, and perhaps most remarkably she experienced a deeper sense of connection with her family as she focused more on the experience of the holiday than the gifts typically associated with it. Another client told me that her best Christmas gift was that her husband was now sleeping through the night knowing that his family was taken care of. And yet other clients have indicated that they’ve enjoyed traveling to exotic locations, connecting with family at a variety of events, and also accomplishing something that they’ve been wanting to do for a long time (i.e. finish school, pay off debt, etc.).

What is it that has you smile from ear to ear? Where in your life do you experience joy and passion? What has you experience contentment, fulfillment, or gratitude?

Abundance is often all around us, just waiting for us to be a witness to it. And often times all it takes is slowing down long enough to look around us and appreciate it. Where is abundance hiding in plain sight in your life and you don’t even know it?

Consider starting a daily abundance journal that you fill with the things that you’re grateful for. Every morning, I take a few minutes to think about at least 5 things that I’m grateful for that represent abundance in my life. It’s one of the favorite parts of my day to set my mind in the right energy – so perhaps it can also support you to appreciate the abundance that is waiting to be seen in your world!

If I’ve learned anything in my almost 40 years on this earth, it’s that when we clearly see the abundance in our lives and express gratitude for it, we attract more of it into our lives. And who doesn’t want more abundance in their lives, right?

I wish you unlimited contentment, fulfillment, gratitude, abundance, joy, passion and anything else that makes you happy!

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3 Key Financial Mistakes to Avoid that Can Rock Your Financial Foundation

In preparing for the call that I’m hosting next week, I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about my clients and the struggles that they have when they first begin to work with me.

And while I’ll be sharing the top 10 most common financial mistakes that I see on the call next Tuesday, today I wanted to share with you 3 very common mistakes that I see. In my mind, there’s no time like the present to get you started thinking about the possibility of financial freedom!

Mistake #1: Not understanding the financial conversations that hold you back – In working with all of my clients, there is usually a desire to learn new ways of managing their money which is obviously an important part of overall financial health. However, what is often missed is taking the time to truly understand how you grew up around money; what are the underlying beliefs you have about money; and what are your financial fears – in a nutshell, what is your money mindset? Without awareness and understanding of the beliefs that hold you back, often times the day-to-day money management practices are sabotaged as these beliefs run around in your head sabotaging you unconsciously. As a personal example of this, I wasn’t aware that I had a belief that “financial security comes from a paycheck and benefits” until I considered working on commissions in someone’s small business several years ago. Without having taken the time to see that this was true for me, I wouldn’t have been able to shift that belief so that eventually I could step into entrepreneurship and own my own business.

Mistake #2: Lack of awareness around financial opportunities and challenges – Creating a new relationship with money largely consists of establishing new financial habits and routines, one of which is to consistently be present to where you are financially speaking in any given moment. What are your financial opportunities? What are your financial challenges? In being up front and honest about where you stand, you can clearly understand your starting point and then map the next steps forward. Understanding your financial opportunities and challenges is much like finding out what to program into the “point A” of your “financial GPS” – you’re more likely to get where you’re going if you know the direction you’re coming from!

Mistake #3: Living life without a financial plan – If you’ve got a “point A” for your financial GPS then you need a “point B” too, right? So many clients that I work with live in what I affectionately refer to as “the Bermuda triangle of finances”, with 3 common and consistent issues that keep them spinning: 1) making good money and not understanding where their money goes; 2) living with a significant amount of consumer debt from living beyond their means; and 3) limited (or no) liquid savings. This formula is a recipe for financial stress and chaos, and in order to move beyond that it’s important to have a financial plan that allows for you to handle your commitments in excellence while planning for the future (i.e. paying off debt, building a savings account, etc.). So many people that I meet and talk to muddle through their day thinking that financial stress is just a part of life – and I can absolutely tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way if you take the time to draft a detailed plan to manage your money and use it to support the things in your life that you’re up to!

While there are many more mistakes that I see people making that I will share next week on the call, these 3 mistakes are the most common and overarching ones that I see happening that keep people from living as abundantly as they would like to.

Each year millions of people make resolutions to strengthen their financial foundation and improve their financial health, so what financial mistake will you address in 2015 that will have you feeling more empowered when the calendar turns to 2016?

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