How to Avoid a Post-Holiday Financial Hangover

It’s the end of January 2015 and you walk in the door at the end of your day and begin to open the mail. You freeze when you notice that the post-holiday credit card statement has arrived. Uh-oh…time to face reality from the “retail therapy” that took place before the holidays.

While I’m certainly a fan of a little retail therapy now and then, I will also say that if you’re willing to take some time to plan in advance to save money and keep from overspending that you can successfully avoid the post-holiday financial hangover!

Similar to everyday money management, designing a financial plan for holiday spending ahead of time that aligns with what matters to you allows more money to stay in your pocket while creating experiences and connections with people you care about.

Here’s how I encourage you to think through and design your own financial plan for the holidays:

Step #1: Decide on your “big” holiday occasions – There are so many opportunities to do things during the holidays that sometimes it can make your head spin. Deciding in advance what your “big” occasions will be (i.e. Chanukah, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, specific parties, etc.), and where you’ll enjoy investing your money the most will help you properly allocate most of your free cash flow to those occasions. And if possible, make sure to allocate a small portion of your holiday financial plan for the “unknown” events as well (i.e. those opportunities to head out unexpectedly with friends for dinner and/or have cocktails with co-workers before or after the company party).

Step #2: Focus on experiences vs. things – We live in a culture where we are constantly being bombarded to buy everything, whether it’s through a TV or radio commercial, an email, or perhaps even good old-fashioned “snail mail”. So before you start to think about purchasing gifts (which we’ll talk about in Step #3 below), I’d encourage you to think about whether a gift is what you really want to give. From my experience, people are craving connection and meaning in their lives, so ask yourself – are you in a place to provide either of those gifts to them? Some examples might include taking time to volunteer as a family at Thanksgiving at a soup kitchen and then coming home to a smaller meal later in the day, or perhaps scheduling a family event in December to get together with loved ones and asking everyone to bring their favorite dish to share with others (a bit like pot-luck style). Also, one of my favorite things to do is to make a donation to a charity on behalf of a loved one to a charity that has meaning for them. For example, in past years I’ve chosen to make a donation on behalf of my Uncle to remember my Aunt who passed away in 2008.

Step #3: Conscious gift giving – You’ve heard how Santa makes a list and checks it twice, so I encourage you to do the exact same thing! Put together a list of people that you’d like to buy presents for, including your kids’ teachers and the mailman, if appropriate. Once you’re done with that list, review it to challenge whether or not you need to buy something or perhaps you can refer back to Step #2 and give them the gift of an experience. Also, ask yourself the question whether there are people on the list who might appreciate one less thing to shop for during the holidays. As an example, my best friend and I decided years ago to focus on getting together for lunch instead and it’s one of the best gifts (less time shopping and more time together) we’ve ever given each other! For anyone who still remains on the list that gets to have a gift, take some time to decide on a target amount for each person so that when you get in the store you have some idea of how much you’d like to spend. And lastly, before you even head to the stores, hop online to search for promo codes or coupons at the stores you typically shop at – at this time of year there are always good promo codes and coupons online that can help you save money and keep more money in your pocket!

These 3 simple steps can honestly be done relatively quickly, yet it can save you hundreds if not thousands of dollars this holiday season. And a bonus tip for next year so that you can streamline your holiday spending even further if you’d like to: write down who you bought for, what you bought them, and how much you invested. Take this list and revisit it in January with two main purposes: 1) to see who you’d like to include for next year again (or perhaps who you no longer need to include); and 2) take the total amount that you spent, divide it by 12 get a monthly amount and begin to save in advance so you’ll have the money on hand to pay for everything next December!

And above all, remember to have fun when you’re thinking about planning your holiday experiences and gifts. In this day and age when everyone is so busy, take some time to stop and smell the roses. Life is short and it’s meant to be enjoyed!

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The 3 “Ms” of Money Mastery – Mindset, Mechanics, and Manifestation

In a recent conversation with a client as we were wrapping up her coaching program, we both realized the breadth and the depth of the work that we had completed in just 9 months. It was an emotional moment, and we were both grateful at the shift we had been able to create for her to have a much more positive and powerful relationship with money.

As we reflected on the 9 months that we’d spent together, we truly realized how much we had been able to accomplish. As a business owner, she had started her program wanting to understand how her beliefs about money were holding her back; how to set up a savings and spending plan that she could actually stick with; how her personal financial situation impacted her business; and how to set financial goals in her business while tracking and understanding her business’ performance.

On our journey together, we started by understanding her money mindset. Money mindset is a set of conscious or unconscious beliefs about money that are typically learned either from immediate family or society at large while growing up. Some examples include: “I’m not good at math or money”; “I’m not smart enough to get rich”; “I have some resentment toward wealthy people”; and “Financial security comes from a good job and a steady paycheck.” And in truly understanding your money mindset, it’s also important to review and revisit how you grew up around money as there are often consistent themes of what you were taught to believe. Once you have an awareness and understanding of your current money beliefs and mindset, the final step is to decide whether those beliefs serve you (i.e. they support you and you’d like to keep those beliefs) or whether you’d like to recondition and shift those beliefs to something new and more supportive.

Once we understood the money beliefs that were standing in her way and how she wanted to recondition those beliefs, it was time to look at how she was using her money and also to set up some money mechanics. Money mechanics are, in a nutshell, the systems and processes in your daily life that support you in keeping your money flowing authentically, proactively, and intentionally. Mechanics include (but aren’t limited to): having a savings and spending plan (or financial plan) that is based on your goals; regularly reviewing how you’re actually using your money in comparison to how you’ve planned to; and having a system in place to reduce debt and also to increase savings.

Finally, after stabilizing and centering this client with a new and improved money mindset and stronger mechanics, she and I focused on the importance of intention with respect to money manifestation. If manifestation is a new word for you, essentially it represents the ability to create something (i.e. to manifest it). In my experience, both with myself, and with clients, manifestation is a process that requires clarity in what is being requested (i.e. specifics like amount, timing of amount, etc.), a strong financial foundation, and a very strong intention and energy behind receiving what it is that you’re requesting. As one mentor once told me, Attention + Intention = Results, and I feel this is highly applicable when it comes to manifestation. What you focus on expands and is attracted into your life, so clarity of intention and desires is critical to ensure you’re attracting what you actually want!

Developing a new relationship with money takes time, and yet at the same time some pretty powerful and profound changes can take place relatively quickly when one dedicates time and attention on their money mindset, mechanics, and manifestation. What next step will you take today to develop your own money mastery?

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Redefining Wealth – what does it mean to you?

“Wealth isn’t something to hold onto, it’s something that flows through us.”

It was the one phrase that the trainer shared during a 4-day course that landed for me so clearly.

In today’s society, if you were to take a poll of how most people would define wealth, it would most likely align with the more traditional definition of wealth: “a great quantity or store of money, valuable possessions, property, or other riches.” In my line of work, the term “wealth accumulation” arises often, as many financial professionals are focused on how much money can be put aside for retirement.

I understand in this day and age that we can no longer solely rely on the government for financial resources in retirement (i.e. social security, etc.), and that we get to actively participate in proactive money management and strengthening our own financial foundations. This is indeed important.

However, for me the definition of wealth far outweighs how much money you have in the bank or the things that we buy. It goes beyond our net worth and what we physically have in our lives. As the trainer indicated, wealth isn’t something we hold onto, it’s something that we create in every aspects of our lives (financial or otherwise) that flows through us.

An alternate definition of wealth that I found was: “an abundance or profusion of anything; plentiful amount.” For me, the most important word in that definition is “anything.” Wealth can indeed be about money, and it can also be about other things as well.

When I think about what wealth is to me, it’s so many things…

  • Wealth is a consistent feeling of joy in my life.
  • Wealth is an inner knowing that I’m living my purpose and I’m actively moving toward the best version of myself.
  • Wealth is the joy of a child’s smile and laughter in a moment of innocence and exuberance.
  • Wealth is the feeling I get from supporting others – financially, emotionally, or spiritually.
  • Wealth is a conversation with a friend where I’m really and truly present and listening.
  • Wealth is being in service to others.
  • Wealth is being a witness to the growth of others, and seeing them take a leap in their life despite fear.
  • Wealth is having a home that is safe, comfortable, and warm.
  • Wealth is living my life with my heart wide open, despite the potential for being hurt.
  • Wealth is the simplicity of time with my family and other loved ones.

As the trainer said this past weekend, wealth really does flow through us in so many ways when we stop to think about it. And as with wealth, I believe that money gets to flow in and out. When the primary definition of wealth is one that implies accumulation and a static balance of net worth, the energy of money is altered – it’s less flow and more slowed down (if not completely stopped).

So what does wealth mean to you? What are the ways that wealth flows through your life? Are there new and exciting ways for you to see wealth beyond your bank statements?

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When Money and Quantum Physics Collide

Lately, I’ve been drawn to a field of study called quantum physics, which is essentially all about how we create our experience and everything in our lives.

Now before you go thinking I’ve lost my mind (I can hear you now saying to yourself “she’s a financial expert not a scientist, right???”), bear with me for a bit and see if you can begin to wrap your head around what is turning out for me to be a MAJOR mindset shift as it relates to money, finances, and abundance.

In high school, physics was by far my worst subject. I had an amazing teacher and while the basics made sense I didn’t come close to understanding it beyond memorizing formulas that I would need for tests (and I would quickly forget even those shortly thereafter!).

Last year, one of my business coaches recommended a great book called “A Happy Pocket Full of Money.” It sounded amazing and who doesn’t want to have a lot of money in their pocket, right? I downloaded the audio version of the book and started listening right away…and I immediately had one major issue when I came to a few chapters in. It started to talk about quantum physics and I couldn’t help but fall asleep!!

Several months later in the spring/early summer of 2014, I started to train for the half marathon I would complete in September, and I needed something to listen to that I could sink my teeth into (and quite honestly that would distract me from exercising which I do because it’s good for me, not because I love it). I listened to “A Happy Pocket Full of Money” a few times during my training walks, and I started to understand and hear how quantum physics explained that we are in control of creating our experience at all times, and that there are things we can do to attract abundance into our lives. This was GREAT news as far as I was concerned, and it also dove-tailed with some training I had done earlier this year as well.

I began to think about how this body of knowledge and new insights applied to money and my work as a financial coach – what did this mean as it related to money and attracting abundance, and was there anything new to teach my clients or share with others during presentations I did?

And then the Universe answered me in the form of another book, Busting Loose from the Money Game. And the “happy accident” part of the story is that I intended to order “Busting Loose from the Business Game” (a book by the same author). So when the book arrived on my doorstep one Friday night courtesy of Amazon and I opened it to see the wrong book I said “huh, they shipped the wrong book!” And then I stopped to say “wait – maybe they didn’t ship the wrong book?” Sure enough, I checked my email receipt from when I ordered and I had been the one to order the “wrong” book. What a serendipitous coincidence, yes? I love those!!!

Of course the book is perfect for where I am personally right now, and also as an additional resource and consideration when it comes to my financial work. I will admit that I’m still trying to wrap my head around it all, and I’m by no means an expert, yet I thought I’d share some of the basic take-aways I’ve had with you to share a different perspective and point of view.

Here is a brief look into 3 key mindset shifts I’ve experienced since beginning this latest book (and I’m still working my way through it, so there might be more to come):

1) We create everything in our life – I’ll start with the most challenging concept of quantum physics and abundance, and yet it’s the most important one from my perspective. In a nutshell, at any given time we have participated in creating our current existence, whether it’s the house we live in, our job, or our financial situation. We are born as magnificent and abundant creatures, only to be placed into a world where the primary experience is one of limitation, restriction, or lack which has us believe that there isn’t enough. If we only could truly understand how powerful we are as human beings, we would have access to the unlimited abundance that is our birthright and powerfully create amazing things in our lives.

2) Appreciation and gratitude for every form of money in your life is critical – The concepts of gratitude and appreciation aren’t necessarily new ones, however what was new for me was to think about whether I actually expressed appreciation as it related to my financial commitments. We all live in the physical world where bills are a part of our experience, yet how we approach paying those bills can impact our overall financial experience. When paying bills, do you take the time to sincerely appreciate the value of what was received in exchange for your payment, or do you simply make the payment in a rush and, perhaps even worse, sigh to yourself that it’s more money out the door? The ability to express appreciation for the flow of money into and out of your life is an important part of ensuring that financial energy continues to circulate and you are able to continue to create value and abundance in your life.

3) “Have to” vs. “Get to” – This concept isn’t necessarily from the book itself, it’s more of a language change that I’ve made for myself recently that relates to the above 2 shifts I’ve already mentioned. We often speak of what we do as “I have to do XYZ,” when the reality is that we always have choice – either in doing something at all or in how we energetically approach a task. When we “have to” do something, we’re resigning ourselves to doing it and if we are truly taking the stance that we are the Creator in our own lives, then we absolutely do “get to” do everything – because we created what we get to do in the first place!

Wow – that was a lot of new thinking, even for me! I completely understand that these are new ideas, and they may seem a bit foreign to you at first (as they did to me – they literally shook my brain and gave me a headache for a little while). My hope is that by sharing what I’m learning with you today that it will encourage you to explore whether these ideas and concepts resonate for you as a new possibility to put yourself more firmly in the financial driver’s seat of your life! I know I’ll be doing just that for myself in the weeks and months to come.

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The Connection between Financial Health and Abundance

There’s an amazing conversation going on in our world about how to attract and invite abundance into our lives – have you heard about it yet?

Sadly, my experience tells me that most people want amazing amounts of abundance in their lives, yet they are not in the place financially speaking to powerfully attract abundance in the most optimal way.

What I see is this – there’s a financial energy spectrum that spans from scarcity, to sufficiency (as the mid-point of the spectrum), to abundance. At the scarcity point of the continuum, the financial energy is hectic and chaotic which tends to come from feelings of “not enough,” people feeling overwhelmed by money, and a general sense of disorganization when it comes to finances. At the sufficiency point, the energy is more stable, with a sense of ease about having enough money and other resources to live life peacefully with what you need and a healthy level of financial knowledge. And at the abundance point, you’re attracting amazing things into your life as you’re standing on a strong financial foundation.

In order to powerfully attract abundance, however, most people first get to focus on shifting from scarcity to sufficiency. I’ve found that creating abundance is much easier when you can stand on a strong financial foundation that demonstrates your ability to steward your money well. When you come from this place of power, the Universe recognizes that you can be trusted with money and resources, and the abundance (financial and otherwise) begins to show up.

Unfortunately, for the majority of people (70%) who live paycheck-to-paycheck, they end up more toward the scarcity point of the continuum as they are often worried about getting by on a day-to-day basis. So what can you do if you’re one of the many people who want to make a conscious energetic shift out of scarcity and toward sufficiency so that at some point in the near future you can powerfully invite abundance into your life?

The answer: focus on your financial health. Understand what financial health means to you and who the professionals are that can support you in understanding financial health. Begin to learn about money management and best practices when it comes to your finances, and complete a self-assessment of your own financial health.

As I’ve shared before in other articles, “The Financial Health Spectrum™” (which includes the 3 phases of Build, Protect, and Grow your financial assets) reflects different levels of financial health and is a good place for you to start assessing where you are and what the next best steps are for you to improve your financial health. You can use this spectrum to identify which financial expert can help you with your goals and to learn the next set of financial skills that will best support you.

Improving along the spectrum is a longer-term process since strengthening your financial foundation and building financial independence is often a multi-step journey that takes place over time and with attention to progress (and not perfection). It is also important to note that it is possible to be in more than one phase at the same time (i.e. saving for retirement (Grow) while looking to more proactively manage your monthly cash flow (Build) and put the proper legal paperwork in place (Protect)).

Take some time today to understand where you are in terms of your financial health – and ask yourself, are you ready to do what it takes to shift your financial energy and begin to create the abundant life of your dreams?

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